Sister Bednar and I are acquainted with a returned missionary who had dated a special young man for a period of time. She cared for him very much, and she was desirous of making their relationship more serious. She was considering and hoping for engagement and marriage. This relationship was developing during the time that the Church was observing the 75th anniversary of the Church Welfare Program, and the Prophet and Apostles had counseled the members of the Church to “renew and strengthen [their] commitment to act” on behalf of the poor in their communities and around the world.*
The young woman waited patiently over a period of time for the young man to start volunteering at a food bank or homeless shelter, but she noticed he did not even donate to relief efforts in Japan, Thailand, or Myanmar. This was a valuable piece of information for this young woman, and she felt unsettled about his nonresponsiveness to an apostle’s pleading. For this and other reasons, she ultimately stopped dating the young man, because she was looking for an eternal companion who had the courage to promptly and quietly obey the counsel of the brethren in all things and at all times. The young woman was quick to observe that the young man was not quick to observe.
*Henry B. Eyring, “Opportunities to Do Good,” General Conference April 2011
- 7 April 2011