Zelophehad’s Daughters

For the Ones Who Never Wanted a Fight

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I’m a rare presence around these here parts.  But I guess I’ve been thinking a lot about something particular for a few months now–enough that I thought perhaps I could write something little (and by little I mean personal and rambling) about it. The thing is that, well, I’m a person with some pretty solid […]

Pet Peeve

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Unintentional sexism/homophobia/racism is still sexism/homophobia/racism. Well-meaning sexism/homophobia/racism is still sexism/homophobia/racism. Misguided sexism/homophobia/racism is still sexism/homophobia/racism. Ignorant sexism/homophobia/racism is still sexism/homophobia/racism   Just because something is unintentional, well-meaning, misguided, or stemming from ignorance doesn’t mean that it’s okay.

Give Me a Break

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Have you ever felt the need or desire to “take a break” from church? Why or why not? If you did, and you acted on it, what were the consequences (good or bad)?

It wasn’t about pants…but then it became about pants. And that’s why I’m wearing pants.

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PANTSPOCALYPSE! No, seriously. There are, at this very moment, a lot of people who are convinced that the end of the world is coming because of trousers.  In church even!  On ladies! The Mayans predicted this!

Introvert Church

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What would a church designed by and for introverts look like?

Coercion: Stop it

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One of my first posts at ZD was about what I called my “feminist awakening.”  I pinpointed it to a particular summer, the first of my graduate studies.  But, I don’t think it really explained the bigger picture of what really was happening.  That summer wasn’t the beginning of my discomfort with gender inequality, it […]

Going Ex-Pat: One Year In, Part I

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A little over a year ago, I wrote a post about my hopes and fears surrounding an upcoming move to Germany and how that would affect my general craving for more spiritual authenticity. I was thinking a bit about that post today and realized that I had some things to say about what I’ve learned, […]

Hypothetical: Which do you think would more likely occur first?

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1.  Openly gay member of the Quorum of the Twelve or 2. Female member of the Quorum of the Twelve And why?

Living Authentically and the Mormon Child Bride

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I had the opportunity (and the very narrow window of time) a few weeks ago to drop in on exactly one session of the Salt Lake City Mormon Stories Conference.  I was pleasantly surprised there when I got the chance to meet and listen to one of my blogging crushes–the “Mormon Child Bride.”  Her reflections about […]

I find this problematic…but should I?

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E-mail received today:  Bishop ***** and I both endorse an effort of the ******* Catholic Church to bring  to light religious freedoms being encroached upon by our government,  and encourage all Latter Day Saints to participate in an open invitation to all Christian congregations to attend an Interdenominational prayer service for religious liberty on Saturday June 16th @ […]

Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

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I’ve been reading a book and it has me all curious about something.  So, just let me know, in the comments. E or I Which do you lean more towards?

Luck

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I wrote this two years ago and just happened to come across it today.   My senior year at BYU was pretty darn lame.  But, you know, it was only lame because I made it lame with my panic.  You see, it was the first time I actually realized that I was going to be […]

Happy International Women’s Day

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The following fantastic, inspirational, and hilarious video-parody brought to you by Alice Paul, Harry Burn, the Women’s Suffrage Movement…and Lady Gaga. You won’t regret clicking this link.

Tithing Workaround

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I love the idea of tithing.  It reminds me that money is just money–and if I can’t give it away then I don’t own it, it owns me.  It’s a wonderful reminder to set aside a percentage of my income to help those around me who are in a rough patch.  It makes me a […]

Patriarchy = Communism

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{{Oh snap!  What a hot-button title!  Don’t let it throw you off from actually reading the post!}} I currently live in a city that used to be deep in former East Germany.  I’ve seen pictures of rows on rows of historic buildings painted grey and brown, falling down in the 1980s.  I’ve walked through the […]

Lifestyle Blogging, Guilt, and Me

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When I walk home from the grocery store, the first thing I see as I exit those automatic doors is the towering gorgeousness of a 13th century church just inside a 12th century city wall.  And every time I see it, I think, “I need to blog about that.” This is, I’m starting to suspect, […]

Recently Overheard (Over read?) on Facebook

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So…my old roommate announces that she’s been called as the Personal Progress consultant in her ward.  She asks anyone if they remember any good projects they did or really enjoyed in Personal Progress, to be used as suggestions for things she can organize. Some people  I do not know replied thus, in no particular order:

The Talk I Always Wanted to Give

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Some of you requested the full-text for the talk I gave this last weekend on “Crises of Faith”… Here it is.

In a Friggin’ Candy Store!

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Husband and I just got assigned to speak and the topic is…. ::drumroll:: “Crises of Faith”

Going ExPat

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I hope anyone who reads this can do it with an open, nonjudgmental eye.  Like Tirzah has felt in her recent posts, I’m a little nervous to be writing this out since I’m afraid others will react with pity, condemnation, disapproval, fear, or other manifestations of guilt-inducing negativity.  I became part of ZD because I […]