Zelophehad’s Daughters

Taking Requests

Posted by Vada

Our blog is a little slow lately, and I’m feeling a little bad about that, and like I should do something about it. I have a number of post drafts in-progress, but none that are currently interesting enough to me to be worth the energy to finish them. So I thought I would approach our lovely readers. Are there any subjects that you’ve always wanted to discuss? Anything you wish we had a post on? Anything that’s currently on your mind that you wish there was a current post about? I’m taking requests. I won’t guarantee anything (since that’s practically a guarantee that I won’t manage to do it), but if you want to see a post on a particular subject and I can come up with something quasi-intelligent to say on the matter, I’ll try to do it. So, fire away. I aim to please.

15 Responses to “Taking Requests”

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    What happened to the 900 posts in the queu? That was an awesome list of titles, and I’d love to see some of those fleshed out.

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    Like I said, I have some in the queue, but none I can seem to get excited enough about to actually finish. Also, most of those awesome 900 posts aren’t mine. :)

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    Thanks for fixing my spelling of “queue”. I can never remember how to spell that word!

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    I’ve always been curious about what it’s like to apply for religious graduate programs in places where it isn’t common to be LDS. I imagine you have to present your application and proposals in a very carefully contextualized manner.

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    new carinessa women’s garment top!

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    new carinessa women’s garment top!

    They’re actually selling those now? Since when?

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    Whoa, whoa, whoa. How can I get me 25 of those?

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    How about what to say to someone who thinks that there is no proof that women used to give blessings in the church?

    I’m tempted to say “just because you can’t find mention of it in the scriptures or the Ensign” doesn’t mean it didn’t happen and leave it at that but I figure this person deserves a more respectful response.

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    I’d love to learn more about all of you guys. I know a few of you on facebook, and the posts here are all of utmost quality, but they aren’t frequent enough for me to feel like I *know* most of you or your stories. And I really like you’re stuff, so I’d like to get to know you better. :)

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    Sorry to post this and then not respond for a whole day — weather issues are making it hard to get online much.

    z, I’d be interested in hearing about that, too. Unfortunately, as I think I’m the only ZD who hasn’t actually gone to grad school, I’m not the one who’s going to be able to tell you. (Though I actually did apply to grad school, but in computer science, so again, not anything I can tell you about.) Maybe one of my co-bloggers will take up the question someday (though some of them are on a grad-school-imposed blogging fast, so it may be a while).

    anita, that’s something I’m going to have to look into. I need to buy new garments anyway, and I always like to try new styles (mostly because I dislike all the old ones). Since I won’t be at our church for a couple of weeks and I need to get my membership number before I can order anything, and then I need to wait for it to arrive, it will be a few weeks, at least, before I can report back. If anyone else has anything to share on the matter before that, please let me know!

    Jenne, that’s one I can probably answer a little quicker, but it’s still going to require a bit of research. Look for a post on it in the next week, though!

    And nat, telling you about myself is quite easy, and I might even be able to convince some of my co-bloggers to get on and write a little, too. “About myself” is a little broad, though. What do you want to know (first)?

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    I’d like a post exploring the theological implications of mental illness, particularly personality disorders and the moral implications of the fact that some 4% of humans simply have no conscience. These would be people with anti-social and narcissistic personality disorders. They spend their lives using and abusing others without any real sense that what they do is wrong. Even when they are told that something is wrong, it just doesn’t sink in because it doesn’t *feel* wrong to them. They simply lack the capacity to have any empathy with others, and they lack the capacity to love, and to feel remorse for harm they cause. Psychiatrists and Psychologists hold out little to no hope of any cure, mainly because they aren’t motivated to change. The brain circuits that allow the rest of us to get joy from human connections, from love and mutual caring, just aren’t there for these people.

    So where do they fit in the Plan of Happiness? Are they pre-Edenic humans? Are they innocent like tigers? Are they on a continuum with the rest of us, with their light-of-Christ feelings merely latent? Will they have a chance to advance in the next life/lives? To me these are very pressing questions.

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    On the topic of mental illness, I’m always interested in hearing about how members deal with depression in the church.

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    Vada, I’m looking forward to it! Thanks for taking on my question.

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    … and how do we live with people like that? What’s the humane thing to do? Do we allow simply ourselves to be used, to give love and support and kindness, time and effort, to those who seemingly can never benefit from it or ever hope to return it? That seems the right thing, only what of the damage to those whose love and care is only ever returned with abuse? Is it fair to them? Is it right and just? What should we do? How do we protect the innocent while also being fair and loving to those who after all never asked to be that way and weren’t responsible for whatever combination of genetics and early-childhood abuse or neglect caused their condition? Can they learn by rote not to be abusive? Can they memorize the long, long, actually infinite list of all the things they must not do to those around them? How do you teach someone in advance not to feed jalapeno peppers to a kitten when the idea that they might never crosses your mind, and the idea that they shouldn’t never crosses theirs?

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    Vada, if you’re still taking requests I’d love to hear more about your day-to-day life and how you manage three kids, especially one with autism.

    I’m trying to figure out how to manage two kids, neither of whom has autism, as far as we know, but wow, some days are just….I mean, a person could die of folding laundry. So I’m always very curious to hear how other people manage.

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