Comments on: Being a 30-something Single in the Church: Part VII, Attempts at Comfort http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 05:00:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: z http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59605 z Tue, 20 Jul 2010 23:10:36 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59605 Run it however you want. It's just a request, I'm not "telling" you anything. Run it however you want. It’s just a request, I’m not “telling” you anything.

]]> By: The Bouncer http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59603 The Bouncer Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:13:13 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59603 max, since your comments, despite their entertainment value, are choking out serious conversation, we're going to be moderating future contributions. If they add to the conversation (instead of derailing it), we'll let them through. z, it's bad manners to go to a blog and tell the permas how to run it. (You may recall that we object to people attempting to preside over us.) max, since your comments, despite their entertainment value, are choking out serious conversation, we’re going to be moderating future contributions. If they add to the conversation (instead of derailing it), we’ll let them through.

z, it’s bad manners to go to a blog and tell the permas how to run it. (You may recall that we object to people attempting to preside over us.)

]]> By: Katya http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59600 Katya Tue, 20 Jul 2010 12:35:06 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59600 Max, Go back to my response at 33. Read #1 in that response. It says "Don't minimize real pain and grief." You are minimizing real pain and grief. Max,

Go back to my response at 33. Read #1 in that response. It says “Don’t minimize real pain and grief.” You are minimizing real pain and grief.

]]> By: z http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59599 z Tue, 20 Jul 2010 11:37:15 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59599 Can we get max off of here? The thing about the bruises was a step too far for me. and the condescending lecturing is really annoying. Can we get max off of here? The thing about the bruises was a step too far for me. and the condescending lecturing is really annoying.

]]> By: max k. hale http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59596 max k. hale Tue, 20 Jul 2010 04:20:15 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59596 To Danielle - (& everyone else who is looking for comfort) ... the point is: you are in a club that practically everyone else is in as well - everyone has problems! There are just different divisions or classes of problems - to keep it interesting. The mob I feel sorriest for is the "poor little rich kids" who besides wealth have social acceptance & good looks etc. - they have to work so much harder to find out what we already know, & maybe they don't find out at all (?) As for your "suggestions to (Church) leaders" ... don't bother; they already know. The trick is to realize that the Church is into emphasizing the IDEAL rather than the REAL. They have to do that. Don't beat yourself up about not landing amongst the stars, the moon will do. The Church makes sure the herd is roughly headed west & as for strays, there will always be a few of them bellowing in the hills. My concern is that they might end up down at Temple Square handing out anti-Mormon tracts or otherwise embarrassing themselves. Relax, enjoy. The person who seems to have it all while talking about kids & husband may actually need your help. To Danielle – (& everyone else who is looking for comfort) … the point is: you are in a club that practically everyone else is in as well – everyone has problems! There are just different divisions or classes of problems – to keep it interesting.
The mob I feel sorriest for is the “poor little rich kids” who besides wealth have social acceptance & good looks etc. – they have to work so much harder to find out what we already know, & maybe they don’t find out at all (?)
As for your “suggestions to (Church) leaders” … don’t bother; they already know.
The trick is to realize that the Church is into emphasizing the IDEAL rather than the REAL. They have to do that. Don’t beat yourself up about not landing amongst the stars, the moon will do.
The Church makes sure the herd is roughly headed west & as for strays, there will always be a few of them bellowing in the hills. My concern is that they might end up down at Temple Square handing out anti-Mormon tracts or otherwise embarrassing themselves.
Relax, enjoy. The person who seems to have it all while talking about kids & husband may actually need your help.

]]> By: Danielle http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59594 Danielle Mon, 19 Jul 2010 22:01:36 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59594 Getting back to words of comfort for single members of the church, why is it that people are so narrow minded to see singleness as some kind of failing? All I can think is that A family with a husband and wife and children is the only measure of success with the doctrine and culture that surrounds the church. That is a wonderful state of affairs, not the 100% guarentee. Why exclude people? What stance can be taken within ourselves and as suggestions to leaders so people actually feel welcomed to church and like I am having an actual conversation versus cheering on the sidelines? How do I HONESTLY approach people when all they seem to talk about are their kids and husbands or wives and all I can do is nod and be supportive... not a lot to add there/ Getting back to words of comfort for single members of the church, why is it that people are so narrow minded to see singleness as some kind of failing?

All I can think is that A family with a husband and wife and children is the only measure of success with the doctrine and culture that surrounds the church. That is a wonderful state of affairs, not the 100% guarentee. Why exclude people?

What stance can be taken within ourselves and as suggestions to leaders so people actually feel welcomed to church and like I am having an actual conversation versus cheering on the sidelines? How do I HONESTLY approach people when all they seem to talk about are their kids and husbands or wives and all I can do is nod and be supportive… not a lot to add there/

]]> By: Frida http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59589 Frida Sun, 18 Jul 2010 23:26:40 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59589 lolol lolol

]]> By: Stephanie http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59588 Stephanie Sun, 18 Jul 2010 22:50:15 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59588 Wow . . . Wow . . .

]]> By: E http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59581 E Sun, 18 Jul 2010 04:05:17 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59581 Don't listen to them, Max. Your comments are awesome. Keep em coming. Don’t listen to them, Max. Your comments are awesome. Keep em coming.

]]> By: meems http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2010/06/29/being-a-30-something-single-in-the-church-part-v-attempts-at-comfort/#comment-59580 meems Sun, 18 Jul 2010 03:40:29 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/?p=3599#comment-59580 <em>giggle!</em> giggle!

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