Comments on: Zelophehad’s Son http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/ Mon, 06 Sep 2010 11:47:02 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jessawhy http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31821 Jessawhy Mon, 16 Jul 2007 19:09:09 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31821 good point good point

]]> By: Geoff J http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31800 Geoff J Mon, 16 Jul 2007 04:22:37 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31800 <em>I tend to hear that families with girls are happy to stay that way, but families with all boys want a girl. Is there any explanation for this?</em> That they are lying? I tend to hear that families with girls are happy to stay that way, but families with all boys want a girl. Is there any explanation for this?

That they are lying?

]]> By: Jessawhy http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31795 Jessawhy Mon, 16 Jul 2007 03:53:32 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31795 this conversation is funny to me b/c I am expecting my third boy. I was honestly hoping for a girl, though we will love and adore him all the same. I tend to hear that families with girls are happy to stay that way, but families with all boys want a girl. Is there any explanation for this? Also, sections 5 and 6 in <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20070622-000002.html" rel="nofollow">this article</a> claim to explain why families have boys and girls from a Dariwinian perspective (I'm not saying I believe it, just that I found it interesting) this conversation is funny to me b/c I am expecting my third boy. I was honestly hoping for a girl, though we will love and adore him all the same. I tend to hear that families with girls are happy to stay that way, but families with all boys want a girl. Is there any explanation for this?
Also, sections 5 and 6 in this article claim to explain why families have boys and girls from a Dariwinian perspective (I’m not saying I believe it, just that I found it interesting)

]]> By: Caine http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31794 Caine Mon, 16 Jul 2007 03:35:39 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31794 My wife and I have 3 girls and just found out we are having a boy. Honestly, we are not prepared for this, and are still in a little bit of shock. For us, it is like starting all over. My wife comes from a family of all girls (5) and after haing 3 in a row, we were ready to have a family of all girls. Our oldest is 8 and this feels a lot like when we were preparing for her to come. These discussions are very interesting to me to try and understand how it might be for our son growing up with 3 older sisters. Any suggestions? My wife and I have 3 girls and just found out we are having a boy. Honestly, we are not prepared for this, and are still in a little bit of shock. For us, it is like starting all over. My wife comes from a family of all girls (5) and after haing 3 in a row, we were ready to have a family of all girls. Our oldest is 8 and this feels a lot like when we were preparing for her to come.

These discussions are very interesting to me to try and understand how it might be for our son growing up with 3 older sisters. Any suggestions?

]]> By: Ziff http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31536 Ziff Tue, 10 Jul 2007 06:35:33 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31536 Geoff, I guess I'm the nega-you, since I'm #2 too. Jacob and Mark, I'm glad that someone around here can be normal, because most of us (Lynnette in particular :P ) are as loony as can be. Paradox, thanks for your fascinating description of how your relationship with your sister has shaped you. Idahospud, cmac, a spectator, and Bored in Vernal, thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. It's fun to hear your descriptions of how your lone our outnumbered brothers or sons respond to being around lots of girls. Eve: <blockquote>I enjoy my siblings much, much more now than I did when I had to babysit them.</blockquote> Oh good, I'm glad you like us more now ;) . I'm sure we were pretty annoying at times (by which I mean "all the time"), particularly when Kiskilili and I would repeat the same silly comment over and over and <em>over</em> until you were ready to choke us. Geoff, I guess I’m the nega-you, since I’m #2 too.

Jacob and Mark, I’m glad that someone around here can be normal, because most of us (Lynnette in particular :P ) are as loony as can be.

Paradox, thanks for your fascinating description of how your relationship with your sister has shaped you.

Idahospud, cmac, a spectator, and Bored in Vernal, thanks for letting me know I’m not alone. It’s fun to hear your descriptions of how your lone our outnumbered brothers or sons respond to being around lots of girls.

Eve:

I enjoy my siblings much, much more now than I did when I had to babysit them.

Oh good, I’m glad you like us more now ;) . I’m sure we were pretty annoying at times (by which I mean “all the time”), particularly when Kiskilili and I would repeat the same silly comment over and over and over until you were ready to choke us.

]]> By: Geoff J http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31534 Geoff J Tue, 10 Jul 2007 05:59:59 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31534 My one sister has six brothers. She must be the Nega-Ziff. (I'm #2 in my family -- which of your sisters is the Nega-Geoff?) My one sister has six brothers. She must be the Nega-Ziff.

(I’m #2 in my family — which of your sisters is the Nega-Geoff?)

]]> By: Jacob J http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31532 Jacob J Tue, 10 Jul 2007 05:43:24 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31532 I have two brothers and three sisters, so I am well rounded like Mark IV, but not as brilliant as he is. I have two brothers and three sisters, so I am well rounded like Mark IV, but not as brilliant as he is.

]]> By: Eve http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31492 Eve Sun, 08 Jul 2007 20:30:41 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31492 Ziff, it's very interesting to me to read your perspective on growing up with six sisters. I'm glad you survived years of babies tromping through the elaborate army-men arrangements on your bedroom floor and that your baseball cards (as far as I know) were never used as teething rings. Although gender wasn't a factor for me in the same way, I had a somewhat parallel experience in that I did not at all enjoy being the oldest of a large family until a lot of the family had grown up significantly. I enjoy my siblings much, much more now than I did when I had to babysit them. Ziff and I got married within a few months of each other, and one thing I've often thought is that Ziff must have been much better prepared for marriage than I was. I grew up in a largely female world, and although I had a tomboy phase which involved tagging along with a very tolerant Ziff and his friends in elementary school, throughout my life most of my friends have been girls. I was really quite surprised to find just how different men are from women when I did marry. But I think I've adjusted reasonably well to tolerate heavy metal, fascination with motorcycles, and a preference for information exchange to rapport building in most contexts. (On the other hand, my husband has four sisters and he knows how to talk about feelings, both from his personal experience and his training as a psychologist. If he didn't, I don't think I would have married him.) I'm really looking forward to seeing all of you too. Our family gatherings just aren't frequent enough, and we all live too far apart from each other. I'm not sure how we're going to remedy this.... Ziff, it’s very interesting to me to read your perspective on growing up with six sisters. I’m glad you survived years of babies tromping through the elaborate army-men arrangements on your bedroom floor and that your baseball cards (as far as I know) were never used as teething rings. Although gender wasn’t a factor for me in the same way, I had a somewhat parallel experience in that I did not at all enjoy being the oldest of a large family until a lot of the family had grown up significantly. I enjoy my siblings much, much more now than I did when I had to babysit them.

Ziff and I got married within a few months of each other, and one thing I’ve often thought is that Ziff must have been much better prepared for marriage than I was. I grew up in a largely female world, and although I had a tomboy phase which involved tagging along with a very tolerant Ziff and his friends in elementary school, throughout my life most of my friends have been girls. I was really quite surprised to find just how different men are from women when I did marry. But I think I’ve adjusted reasonably well to tolerate heavy metal, fascination with motorcycles, and a preference for information exchange to rapport building in most contexts. (On the other hand, my husband has four sisters and he knows how to talk about feelings, both from his personal experience and his training as a psychologist. If he didn’t, I don’t think I would have married him.)

I’m really looking forward to seeing all of you too. Our family gatherings just aren’t frequent enough, and we all live too far apart from each other. I’m not sure how we’re going to remedy this….

]]> By: Paradox http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31477 Paradox Sun, 08 Jul 2007 06:28:07 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31477 I have one sister. She is four years younger than me, and we've had an interesting relationship since the day she was born. I instantly took to her as a second mother, and it has been that way ever since. I've been really protective of her, which can be attributed to many things. She was always a sick baby, which led to some problems that she still deals with today. Her speech was delayed to the point where she had her own dialect for several years that only I could understand. Even when I was 6, 7, 8 years old, I was her translator and link to everyone else, including our parents. I spent the most time with her out of anyone in her life because both of our mom worked, and our dad was pretty hands-off. And as home life began to go downhill, we went through our parent's divorce and the aftermath together. I've always been the protective, perhaps even overbearing older sibling. I'm sure it only got worse after everything we went through with our father, because he's an abusive alcoholic. But we're stronger people because of everything we've seen, and I have a relationship with my sister that I wouldn't trade for anything. My life with my sister has seriously impacted my future because my experience with her is what inspired me to become a speech pathologist. Next fall, I plan to attend BYU in their audiology program in order to help children Baby Sarah. All children deserve someone to listen to them, and to give them their second chance at life. That lesson is something I learned from Sarah in all the time that I've lived with her, and I thank God for the blessing she has been to me... even though she breaks my stuff and hogs the TV. I wouldn't have it any other way:) I have one sister. She is four years younger than me, and we’ve had an interesting relationship since the day she was born. I instantly took to her as a second mother, and it has been that way ever since.

I’ve been really protective of her, which can be attributed to many things. She was always a sick baby, which led to some problems that she still deals with today. Her speech was delayed to the point where she had her own dialect for several years that only I could understand. Even when I was 6, 7, 8 years old, I was her translator and link to everyone else, including our parents. I spent the most time with her out of anyone in her life because both of our mom worked, and our dad was pretty hands-off. And as home life began to go downhill, we went through our parent’s divorce and the aftermath together. I’ve always been the protective, perhaps even overbearing older sibling. I’m sure it only got worse after everything we went through with our father, because he’s an abusive alcoholic. But we’re stronger people because of everything we’ve seen, and I have a relationship with my sister that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

My life with my sister has seriously impacted my future because my experience with her is what inspired me to become a speech pathologist. Next fall, I plan to attend BYU in their audiology program in order to help children Baby Sarah. All children deserve someone to listen to them, and to give them their second chance at life. That lesson is something I learned from Sarah in all the time that I’ve lived with her, and I thank God for the blessing she has been to me… even though she breaks my stuff and hogs the TV. I wouldn’t have it any other way:)

]]> By: Mark IV http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31473 Mark IV Sun, 08 Jul 2007 05:03:22 +0000 http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/07/07/zelophehads-son/#comment-31473 Well, shoot, I have two brothers and two sisters. I guess that makes me the only one around here who is well rounded and anywhere near normal. p.s. that's a joke. Well, shoot, I have two brothers and two sisters. I guess that makes me the only one around here who is well rounded and anywhere near normal.

p.s. that’s a joke.

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